Come Here Often?

MARRIAGE, SEX, UNDERSTALL

It isn’t easy to meet men for sex in polite society. Or, it hasn’t been easy for me to meet them. I’ve heard other guys’ stories about how they’ve met men in social situations and ended up having sex with them. I’ve watched it happen between married guys who work together. No problem. Some of these encounters turn into ongoing, clandestine relationships. Bing, bang, boom! Married guys love fucking each other. It’s so convenient and cozy. They make it look easy. Easy to get the sex and fool their friends and colleagues that they’re just regular guys. It’s always annoyed me that married guys have more gay sex than I do.

On one hand, we want to civilize sex. That’s what marriage does. Marriage makes people do right by the men and women they have sex with. On the other hand, good manners is not the kind of behavior we associate with good sex. Sex is rude and aggressive, though usually discreet and private. How do we get from good manners to sexual excitement? Sex takes liberties, which is part of its thrill. If it were all good manners we’d never get around to it, we’d never get it done. That’s why men do things like having sex under a bathroom stall at Home Depot or the mall. It’s the perfect place to shed your inhibitions, grab a big dick, jack it off, and shoot a big load all over the floor. The perfect place to be anonymous, rude, and sexual. Men meet in a place where it’s mutually understood that casual sex is the goal. Sex with a stranger in a public place is the best sex that some guys have, including married guys. It’s pleasant to move, work, and play in polite society, but most of us want sexual excitement too, and we get it where we find it.

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